Instead of a relationship where “it’s over once we’ve provided the service,”
what if there were a system that “continues to provide support even after the service has been provided”?
That is the new model I envision.
In the field of sperm donation, the relationship between “donors” and “recipients” has traditionally been treated as a one-time arrangement.
However, the lives brought into the world through donation and the lives that are nurtured as a result do not end with that single moment.
Old Daddy has introduced a new concept to this—that of “ongoing responsibility.”
Rather than providing financial support,
the idea is to maintain trust through the medium of money.
I believe this is an initiative that can change the conventional wisdom surrounding sperm donation.
"Support" and "Transactions" Are Different
The term “child support” tends to evoke the impression of a “financial transaction.”
However, the support model I’ve developed is the exact opposite of a transaction.
Monthly payments are not an “obligation,” but a “chosen responsibility.”
It is not the amount of money, but the determination to continue that serves as an indicator of trust.
For both the recipient and the payer,
it serves as a quiet sign that “this relationship truly exists.”
People connect through the act of “paying money.”
This concept hasn’t really existed in society until now.
But if you think about it, educational expenses, donations, and remittances—
—are all “forms of ongoing compassion.”
Old Daddy's goal is to naturally incorporate that thoughtfulness into the act of serving, as seen at
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A New Ethic Called “The Never-Ending Relationship”
In traditional sperm donation, “anonymity” and “a one-time arrangement” were the basic premises.
Once the donation is complete, the donor withdraws from the relationship.
This has been considered the “proper distance” to maintain.
However, as times change and values become more diverse,
I believe more people should choose to “provide gentle support” rather than “completely cut ties.”
Maintaining relationships while keeping a distance.
Striking a balance between personal freedom and social responsibility.
That is the core of my work.
Here, moral integrity takes precedence over legal obligations.
We are connected by trust, not by systems.
That is why the awareness and actions of the participants are what underpin the value of the system.
Moving beyond simply “paying” to “supporting”
At Old Daddy, child support is more than just financial assistance.
It’s also a message that says, “We’re looking out for your future and your child’s.”
As long as the payments continue, the relationship will persist in a different form.
Even if we don’t see each other face-to-face or exchange messages,
the very fact that it continues serves as proof that it is “sustaining” the relationship.
This kind of ongoing support also serves as emotional support for the providers.
The sense that “my involvement is still making a difference”
serves as motivation to continue their work.
The reassurance that this isn’t a one-time effort helps deepen the trust between both parties.
For society to change, “visible accountability” is necessary
Not only in the case of sperm donation, but for society to understand support systems in general, “visible accountability” is essential, as explained here:
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Initiatives like Old Daddy’s are carried out voluntarily, without coercion from anyone, as seen here:
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The continued payment of child support is not merely a transfer of money;
it is proof of the action of “protecting this life together.”
In society, when the nature of responsibility becomes unclear,
prejudice and distrust tend to arise.
Conversely, as visible responsibilities accumulate,
the misconception that “providing = being irresponsible” will certainly fade.
More than numbers, it’s the accumulation of actions that speaks volumes.
That is the “proof of sincerity” that Old Daddy puts into practice.
Not “solving problems with money,” but “building trust with money”
The word “money” can sometimes have a cold connotation.
But what’s truly cold isn’t money itself—it’s how it’s used.
In my work, I view money as a “tool for connecting people.”
Payments are not a substitute for emotions;
they are a mechanism designed to support emotions.
With ongoing financial support, recipients can maintain a stable lifestyle,
and providers gain a “sense of support.”
In this way, making “money” function as a “means of sincerity.”
This is gradually softening the traditional concept of the “responsibility to provide.”
Toward a Society Where Responsibility Circulates
The Old Daddy model illustrates the concept of “shared responsibility.”
In traditional society, responsibility was one-way.
Parents supported their children, and providers simply provided and that was the end of it.
But going forward, the units of society that support one another are beginning to change.
Providers, recipients, and society as a whole each have their own “way of offering support from their respective perspectives.”
For example, by sharing not only financial support but also information and experiences,
the circle of support expands.
If this kind of movement takes hold, the weight of the word “provision” will become much lighter.
Think of responsibility not as “a burden borne by a single person,” but as “something shared among those involved.”
This shift in perspective will surely become the foundation for the future.
A Mechanism as a Bridge to the Future
The model proposed by Old Daddy is also a “system that will endure into the future,” as described here:
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Support that began with personal relationships of trust eventually expands into institutions and culture, as described here:
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In the future, if a support system based on these activities is established,
prejudice against “children born through donation” and “families receiving support” will decrease.
Rather than simply “establishing a connection” through donation, we should foster a “relationship of ongoing support.”
This will create a sense of security for society as a whole.
A system that fosters accountability does not restrict people; rather, it protects their freedom.
Children who grow up within such relationships
will naturally come to understand that they are “supported by others.”
The Real Lives of Those Who Continue to Provide Support
Ongoing support isn’t sustained by beautiful ideals alone.
In reality, there are moments of doubt and exhaustion.
Due not only to the financial burden but also to changes in your life and emotional ups and downs,
there will likely be moments when you feel, “I want to keep going, but it’s hard.”
Even so, there are people who are determined to keep going.
The reason is simple: they don’t want to regret the choice they made at that moment.
They don’t want the act of giving to end as a “single point”; they want to see it through as a “continuous line.”
That determination quietly sustains their efforts.
You don’t need to be perfect to keep going.
Whether you take a short break or adjust the amount,
as long as you have the desire to be sincere toward the other person, that’s enough.
Old Daddy’s system supports this kind of “continuity that allows for fluctuations.”
Toward a Society Where We See Connections in a New Light
As this model gains traction, the very nature of human relationships in society may change.
The boundaries of terms like “family” and “support” will become more fluid,
and we’ll see an increase in the options available for “building relationships.”
While financial support serves as the foundation,
by layering compassion and trust on top of it,
a new kind of “relationship between people” takes shape.
For example, when a child from a family that received support grows up and
realizes, “Even though I couldn’t see it, someone was there to support me,”
that experience will be passed down to the next generation as an act of kindness.
The circle of support will one day become a culture embraced by society as a whole.
At the heart of that culture lies a small desire to help others and
a new ethic of “sharing responsibility.”
In Closing: Responsibility Is Not a Duty, but a Testimony to a Relationship
The word “responsibility” can sometimes sound like a heavy burden.
But what Old Daddy is showing us is
not “the responsibility to tie someone down,” but “the responsibility to maintain a relationship.”
Not compulsory, but voluntary.
Not an obligation, but an act of compassion.
The more this approach spreads, the less the act of sperm donation will be seen as something special,
and the act of “supporting” others will naturally take root in society.
My work is about redefining the word “responsibility” in a gentler way.
——Responsibility means maintaining trust.
It is the accumulation of these actions that forms the foundation supporting our future.