When people hear the term “trying to conceive,” many might think of hospitals and medical tests.
But before that, the most important thing is “communication.”
Things We'd Like to Discuss
✅ The Right Time to Have Children
✅ How far should we consider treatment?
✅ Sperm donation as an option
✅ Costs
✅ How to Tell Your Family
① When to Have Children
Even when people say, “I’d like to have that someday,” the timeframe they envision varies from person to person.
"I want to think about it within a year."
"Once things settle down at work"
By discussing these differences early on, it will be easier to come up with a plan that both parties can agree on.
② Our Approach to Treatment
Just because you start trying to conceive doesn't mean you'll get pregnant right away.
Therefore,
・How much should we leave it up to nature?
・When should I see a doctor?
・What are your thoughts on artificial insemination and in vitro fertilization?
・How to view sperm donation as an option
It’s a good idea to talk about these things as well, just to be on the safe side.
It's perfectly fine if your answer is, "I haven't thought that far ahead yet."
The point is to provide a starting point for reflection.
③ About Money
Trying to conceive and undergoing fertility treatment require not only emotional readiness but also practical preparation.
Once medical exams, hospital visits, and treatment begin, it’s not uncommon to face expenses.
While some treatments are covered by insurance, not all costs are covered, and the amount you are responsible for varies depending on the type of treatment.
That’s why it’s reassuring to discuss matters such as “how much you can comfortably afford” and “when to reassess your treatment plan” in advance.
It’s safe to say this is a topic that’s essential for both parties to feel at ease as they approach treatment.
④ About My Future Life
Life after having a baby will change significantly from what it is now.
Late-night feedings and diaper changes, balancing work and family, daycare, and housing.
Pregnancy and childbirth aren't the end—they're the beginning of a new life.
For example
- How should household chores and childcare be divided?
- Should I take parental leave?
- Should We Keep Both Working?
- Do you have support from your parents?
You don't have to decide everything right now.
Even so, taking the time to talk about the future—saying things like, “It would be nice to live like this”—is a great way to learn about each other’s values.
When imagining your future life, rather than focusing on “whether it’s possible,”
try talking about “what kind of family you want to be.” 🌿
⑤ About Each Other's Feelings
This point might be the most important one.
Trying to conceive isn't all joy.
Sometimes things don't go as planned.
There will be days when you feel down about your test results.
In situations like that, it’s not about “feeling the same way.”
"So that's another way of looking at it and interpreting it!"
Sometimes, just one word can be enough to save you.
When trying to conceive, it’s not uncommon for men and women to experience things differently.
That’s exactly why it’s important not to assume how the other person feels, but to put our thoughts into words and communicate with each other.
Summary
When trying to conceive, “discussions” are an important part of the process that will help guide your decisions moving forward.
When we want to have children, our attitudes toward treatment, finances, our future life, and how we feel about each other.
You don't have to have an answer for everything.
The important thing is to ask, “What do you think?” and share your thoughts by saying, “Here’s what I think.”
So that everyone who is thinking about their family can make choices that are right for them
We will continue to provide accurate information and opportunities for you to think with peace of mind.